When it comes to online dating scams, there is none more common that the aptly named standard scenario. It’s gained this name due to the fact that it is one of the most standard romance frauds out there, with many people online users unwittingly becoming a victim of it.
The scenario is frequently used by online dating scammers due to the simplicity and effectiveness of the scam, with many female scammers using it as their go-to scam. All that a scammer has to do is make a connection with a potential victim, gain their trust, and eventually request money from them due to any number of “reasons”.
Should the victim comply with the scam, they will continually send money to the fraudster, being completely unaware of the fact that they are being scammed in the first place.
How it Begins
Of course, the beginning of any standard scenario scam will involve online dating. Female scammers looking for lonely males to take of advantage of will frequent many different online dating websites in the hopes of hooking a victim in.
The scam can begin harmlessly too, which tends to lure the victim into a false sense of security – the female will never ask for money from the start of the scam, she will take the time and effort to gain the trust and affections of their victim.
As a result, most standard scenarios start with friendly contact from the scammer. She will want to appear appealing to her victim, so most of this early communication is revolves around casual conversation.
Correspondence between the victim and scammer should become more frequent until they are in regular contact, chatting through email, instant messaging, text messaging, and possible even phone calls.
Again, this is all about building trust between victim and scammer, which will make the next stage of the scam more likely to succeed.
However, up further inspection victims would likely notice that the information she has been providing is actually rather vague, with a lack of any concrete information.
Once the scammer feels she has input sufficient effort to endear the victim, she will make her first financial request.
There will be a notable urgency to the message, and while the details change with each individual scenario, it usually involves financial uncertainty for the scammer. In a nutshell, she will require money for any number of expenses, placing a large focus on how desperate she is.
As she employs emotive reasons for her request, the victim is usually more than happy to comply with her request. They feel they are doing a massive favour for someone they have a romantic connection with, when in truth the female scammer has no such feelings – her sole goal is to take money from the victim.
Once a victim has successfully sent over money, the scammer will know he is now hooked. Certain victims will be strung along for longer depending on their susceptibility, as a scammer will want to gain as much money as possible throughout the scenario.
The scammer will often make another request after time has passed, usually providing a new reason for her request. This continues on until the victim will eventually stop sending money, which tends to happen once they realise the situation.
Once the money stops, the scammer will disappear and move onto a new victim.
The list of potential reasons that a female scammer requires money is rather extensive. She could get very creative with her “expenses”, although there are many common reasons that are widely used by scammers.
- Paying for her internet so she can continue chatting with the victim
- Foreign language courses – possibly to improve her English is she is foreign
- Driving courses so she could eventually come meet the victim
- Purchase goods such as a new laptop, mobile phone, webcam etc.
- Helping buy food she can’t afford
- Helping cover her rent or any unexpected repairs
- Treats for herself, such as clothes, birthday gifts, hotel stays
- Medical emergencies (often involves visiting a “sick relative”)
- Financial emergencies such as losing her job, having her money stolen etc.
There are many variations of these, and some could be completely different. The bottom line is that she will make a request for money, and that should always raise concerns in the world of online dating, no matter how much of a connection there may appear to be.
Be mindful of claims such as these, as they will hopefully allude to the fact that there is a possible scam taking place.