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  1. #1
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    Hi All,

    I'd appreciate any help you can offer. Please bear with me as I tell my tale and feel free to ask any questions for clarification. I will not use names here, but refer to the girl in question as X.

    I am 32, of European ancestry, caucasian and live in Japan - grew up in North America. Around Christmas I broke up with a long term girlfriend and decided to join a local dating website. The reason I joined was not because I need help meeting girls, but to find someone who'd match my needs better. I seem only to meet very young university girls and had gotten tired of them. I am relatively attractive, in good shape and look a couple of years younger than I really am. I also have quite a good job. I met a few people online and blah blah blah, eventually decided to stop because I found it was easier to meet girls in the real world. I only mention this so you know I'm not desperate to meet women. In fact, I was dating someone when I received an e-mail from X, 2 days before I quit the dating site. Oh, how I rue not quitting 3 days earlier.

    X said she was interested in my profile and sent me her e-mail address. I thought it was dodgy as she said she lived in an English speaking country, but had bad English. She told me that her friend Y, who lives in England, set up the account and that she was no good with computers. Her friend had apparently met a man online. She immediately told me she was from Samara, Russia, and sent a picture. She is very attractive, which also raised my suspicions. Although I've dated attractive girls before, I was surprised she was interested because I'm quite short and she's 10cm taller than me. Still, so was a girl I dated for a couple of months at the start of this year. She's also 5 years younger, but my last girlfriend was 11 years younger than me. One has to assume that she needs to be quite attractive to even get my attention because why would I waste my time chasing an average Russian girl when I can easily meet good-looking women here with little effort. Anyway, she sent more pictures later and I noticed she was wearing the same clothes in all of them but one. I thought this might be her best outfit and she wants to look good, which is reasonable. I felt it would be more suspicious if she wore a variety.

    She said her English was bad and she had to use a translator. She seems to have been trying to write on her own lately, which I do appreciate, even though it's a little hard to understand.

    I was quite lazy about replying because I thought the relationship was hopeless. Although I have enough money to make it, I am loathe to risk it. On the other hand, I'm a little tired of Japanese girls to be honest. X got a little upset with me for being slow to reply (over a week) once and asked if I'd lost interest. I thought this showed some genuine interest, but is this part of a scam? Please let me know if you've heard this one.

    We sent each other e-mails talking about our everyday lives and she seemed very happy to receive mine. I was happy to get hers and we exchanged pics. After sending each other about 15 e-mails each over the space of 5 or 6 weeks, she said that it would nice if we could meet. It didn't feel too soon to discuss the possibility as summer holidays were on the way for both of us. She wanted to visit me for a few weeks, but I was naturally wary of having a stranger in my home, so I suggested meeting in a 3rd country for a couple of weeks. She said she could set up 2 tickets through a travel agent where her girlfriend knows someone. I obviously told her I'd work out my own ticket and she agreed to this. She later told me she couldn't afford it without my help and I thought, "Oh, here we go. Scam-time." I told her there was no chance of me sending money over the Internet and figured that'd be the end of it and I wouldn't hear from her again.

    But she e-mailed me again. I said it would seem best if she visited me because I checked the costs of hotels and flights in the summer and it'll be quite a lot more for me to stay in Moscow for a couple of weeks and less interesting. I live in a biggish house in a great city so I'm happier to stay here. She was very happy, but said she couldn't make it without my help. I said OK, I'll cover all your costs for food, transportation, etc. while you're here and I can help with your flight if you need it, but not until AFTER you arrive. Let's face it, a young woman in Russia is unlikely to have money to burn. I'm not saying everyone is financially disadvantaged, but I'm quite sure looking at typical salaries that I've got a lot more expendable cash than the vast majority in Russia. I told her to get the money together from friends or whatever and give me the details of costs, how much she can afford and how much help she needs and we can sort it out. She replied and said she was very sad that she wouldn't be able to make it. I told her to see what she can do and the only other option was for me to visit. I've always wanted to go to Russia and I have six weeks off this summer anyway. The only thing stopping me is the worry that this is a scam and that I could get a way more relaxing holiday for half the price.

    Basically, I'm wondering how likely this is to be a scam scenario. There are no inconsistencies in her messages, but some don't quite follow up on mine. I have once not received a message from her and she once from me. I've never had this happen in the past. It could be her e-mail provider is bad or that she's mixed them up with another guy, which I could forgive because it was early in the relationship and I was in touch with other people, too. I haven't, and never will, send money based on an Internet relationship, but I have become quite emotionally attached to her. I think she must know by now there's absolutely no chance she'll get anything from me by an e-mail relationship, but she's still e-mailing me. I'd like advice on a few questions:

    1. Should I bother continuing to e-mail her or not? I don't want to get hurt and I do feel a little stress over the whole situation. I'd sincerely like to get married and start a family in the next few years and don't want to waste time.

    2. How likely is this to be a scam? I mean, do scammers bother to continue after the likelihood of getting $$ seems nil?

    Oh, I also asked for her number a couple of times, but she ignored it. There were actually other more important things to address in the message, but I thought she would've at least given a reason why not.

    If anyone could talk to me about this situation, I'd really appreciate it. She's volunteered a bit of information without prompting and I do like her, but I just don't want to get hurt. Thanks for any help you can offer.

    Cheers,

    Skeptic
    Female Scammers from Nigeria, Ghana, Russia, Ukraine and Philippines

  2. #11
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    The true ones will be thrilled if you visit them at their home town. They are family oriented and want you and the family to meet. The lady I am to visit in October, has arranged an apartment for us, as she lives with son and aging parents in a small house, she arranged my letter of invitation, checked for all and any flights to a town near her to shorten my time travelling to her ( 13 hours on a train) but the airline stopped flying to her town. All this done and not a whisper of money . Exchanges thru the regular mail and many , many E-mails and pictures. There are some honest ones out there, maybe you have to contact them first instead of waiting for a "cat" to land in your lap.

  3. #12
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    Here's the latest. I let her know that I'm not sending $$$ to her and she seems to have accepted that. She's explained the situation to her mother who has offered to pay half the travel costs and I can send the other half to an account at the travel agent, which I don't intend to do.

    And JSK21, no need to be so crass. I won't be making any mistakes and I'm not desperate like most guys who get involved in this kind of thing are. It's useful to continue it for the sake of seeing where it goes. If one person reads what has transpired and saves himself some pain, it's worth it.

  4. #13
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    here is a test for her. Ask her to send you her half of the costs via WU and you will then PREPAY the flight tickets. Just reverse the situation , see what she does. Then if she refuses , just state that she does not trust you.

  5. #14
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    quote:Originally posted by toymaker

    here is a test for her. Ask her to send you her half of the costs via WU and you will then PREPAY the flight tickets. Just reverse the situation , see what she does. Then if she refuses , just state that she does not trust you.
    Hey, that's not bad. Already sent a reply to her telling her to get her mum to find out exactly how much it costs, get her mum to fork out all the dough and I'll let her know how much I can help her cover. I'm hoping this will either be the end of it or she'll come up with the goods. Gotta go - I have a date tonight. lol

 

 

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