Letter(s) from Grace Anderson to John (Brazil)

Letter 1

hello John,where are are you from and what are you looking for before i proceed

Letter 2

John

I just have to first thank God for bringing us together and i must confess to you that up till now I am still amazed that i did mail you back ,How are you and your work? Hope everything is going smoothly and I feel so happy that you respond back to my email and I hope we can continue to share emails and also pictures and that is the only way for us to get to know each other for now till everything work out between us.
Like I said in my previous email that I was born in Thailand and that was where Dad was living in, then my dad was a Contractor,I think I have to tell you more about me.
Since I just finish my Nursing degree , I came to USA for my internship after i finish from the university as a nurse and it has been great to be a qualified nurse now and also to work with the same hospital as a Midwifery RN nurse. I feel very lucky and honored to receive the financial scholarship and educational opportunities that have further enriched me as a scholar and a nurse. God has really been so good to me after i lost my parents, I have always been on my own though things are so hard on me being all alone and no one to assist me except my Grand mother. I was sent here by the Thailand Medical Board in conjunction with World Health Organization to work as World Health Organization Representatives

I hope we can build a solid and trust foundation. So if you really like to know me better just ask me anything. I want you to be honest and kind to me because i believe we need to get to trust each other better. My friend met the man of her life on this same online site and to my surprise, It was not long at all before they got married and i was really happy for them. It was her case that got me convinced that this online dating really work. Like i said i am willing to relocate to a security foundation, to a man that will be with me, take care of me, love me and give me a happy home.

I really hope we can get to know each other and become very good friend first, I enjoy being a nurse and am looking forward to work in a hospital as soon as i finish my internship and hopefully if things work out between us, i will be glad if you can help me get a job in your city someday, i just want to have a serious and long lasting relationship that can make me achieve my goals. So if you are interested in meeting me, let me know so that we can start a relationship together and if Gods willing, we can meet each other in person,i am ready to relocate to you from here if i find you loving and caring from here,tell me more about yourself,age has nothing to do with it
Grace

Letter 3

Hello,

First you need to know my name is Grace Anderson and I was born and raised in Thailand,my late mother is from USA,my mother died of breast cancer not long after the death of my dad and I lost my dad few years ago to auto crash. I just finish my degree as a nurse not long ago but I am presently in Ohio USA to do my internship as a Nurse and I have been here for about 2 weeks ago and will soon finish everything here and be back home to Thailand and i can relocate to you in Brazil from here if i find you loving and caring from here. I am staying with my friend Barbara who work as a Nurse too, I am 32 years old single and never married, Don't be surprise that I am in a very far a way city at the moment so if you think that you want to get to know more about me, ask me anything you want to know and we can share some pictures together and talk on phones too and then we can see what we have in common. I like to think am a good listener, and I usually always have an opinion about something, even if I know nothing about it!! not sure that's such a good thing. I enjoy sports, I like swimming every now and then and golf is one of the things I enjoy playing most in my life, I like walks in the countryside beach. I go fishing once a year, and enjoy it, am not that good but am a trier. As for some of the things I like doing in my free time, movies shows, musical concerts and sometime go for dinner and taste a little coffee . I am also the kind of woman that will be waiting at your door whenever you are back either from work or anywhere, and I also love cuddling on the couch with the man I love watching tv. I want you to know that when I am set I am set and nothing can change me so I don't beat about the bush and I allow my feelings and mind to be known fast because its very awful when someone hurt another good feelings. I love to travel, places list of countries that I have worked with World Health Organization(W.H.O) are Australia, Malaysia, New Zealand. I enjoy going to the cinema, I love Chinese/mexican foods, and a lovely traditional roast dinner. I am a very independent person, i cook and clean for myself, am a pretty good cook, I don't read as many books as i should, i prefer reference books to novels. I like all sorts of music, from dance to rock, and even some classical music. What I want in a man, you ask, well I want someone to be themselves honesty and not what they think I would want, I would like a best friend as well as a partner, and we must always be able to talk to each other if there's a problem. I'm a very faithful person, and expect the same from my partner, above all I want you to make me smile, I have a great sense of humor, and I hope my partner will have a good sense of humor as well. Laughter is great medicine!! I hope that you will send me some pictures of you and also write to you. Hope we can get to know each other much better and see what we have in common,i am seeking a serious relationship , Hope to hear from you again
Grace

Letter 4

John,

I am very happy about your response towards the email, It shows that you are ready for a long term relationship. Because I am not a woman who likes one night stands or short relationships, I seek long term relationship with someone who is caring, honest, open minded, down to earth, someone who is not shy to display his affection, someone who know what he want in life and someone who know what it takes to love a woman and to take care of the family,am 5.6 tall
I just want you to know that I always want the best out of life and I am ready to go miles and also do anything I can to make my man happy and I have been hurt before so I don't want to get hurt anymore and I am not here to hurt you. I want to love you for who you are and not for what you are if things work out between us. I have always been honest and I hope you have been the same too. I want us to know everything about each other and I don't think we should hide anything from each other in whatsoever way.

Please answer these questions as it will tell me more about you and our relationship:

Are you single or divorced now and how long have you been alone or looking for a woman?

What do you do for a living and explain some certain thing for me about your job in details?

Tell me the roles of man in a relationship?

What are the things that matters in a relationship and what do they mean to you?

What are the roles you want your woman to play in the relationship?

What are the things you want your woman to do to you always?

Tell me your likes and dislikes?do's and don't do?

Do you smoke or drink? if yes, tell me how often?

Are you Independence in your decision about your relationship or do you seek advice from people around you?

How long have you been on a dating site?

What's your bad or good experience in meeting a lady on the Internet ?

Do you like sharing your feelings?

Do you have kids? How Many and if you do, do they live with you?

Do you want kids someday may be in the future?

Where are you really born and raised?

What is your real name and Age?

Are you living alone at the moment and do you live in a shared or rented apartment or a home of yourself?

These questions are thought-provoking and may spread some light on viewpoints we didn't know about us. Take some time and answer this questions, so i can fully understand your views on relationship . As i will do the same in my reply.

So i am kind of lonely for now but i am doing all in my power to keep myself busy, but reading mails from you make me happy ,I hope you are the man i am looking for , I want to be sure because i don't want to get hurt again.
Grace

Letter 5

John,

I am very happy about your response towards the email, It shows that you are ready for a long term relationship. Because I am not a woman who likes one night stands or short relationships, I seek long term relationship with someone who is caring, honest, open minded, down to earth, someone who is not shy to display his affection, someone who know what he want in life and someone who know what it takes to love a woman and to take care of the family,am 5.6 tall I am 6ft 3ins
I just want you to know that I always want the best out of life and I am ready to go miles and also do anything I can to make my man happy and I have been hurt before so I don't want to get hurt anymore and I am not here to hurt you. I want to love you for who you are and not for what you are if things work out between us. I have always been honest and I hope you have been the same too. I want us to know everything about each other and I don't think we should hide anything from each other in whatsoever way.
We have to know everything about each other I agree Grace.

Please answer these questions as it will tell me more about you and our relationship:

Are you single or divorced now and how long have you been alone or looking for a woman?
I am divorced and have been alone since my girlfriend died of a heart attack last year, she was only 35 years old.

What do you do for a living and explain some certain thing for me about your job in details?
Now I am retired Grace but I oversee building works sometimes, at the moment I am involved in a friends leisure area, I will send you photos if you like of the works there.

Tell me the roles of man in a relationship?
In my opinion, to be faithful and true, to have complete and utter respect for his partner, to be understanding and sympathetic when necessary. To make his partner as happy as possible. To provide for his partner and not be demanding. To be honest, sober and trustworthy to his partner.

What are the things that matters in a relationship and what do they mean to you?
For both parties to love and respect each other completely, for each to only want the other as far as sexual relationships goes. To always stay on the side of ones partner in any conflict whether right or wrong.

What are the roles you want your woman to play in the relationship?
To be completely faithful to me, to only want me, as far as housework goes, to help as much as possible, to share chores and to be happy with whatever situation.

What are the things you want your woman to do to you always?
Just love me that’s all

Tell me your likes and dislikes?do's and don't do?
Likes and dislikes, Lol, Mosquitos, flys and Jehova’s witnesses. Laying bed in the mornings, as soon as my eyes open I get up. Don’t do? Very difficult to answer without knowing ones partner completely, in fact sorry I can’t answer that one Grace.

Do you smoke or drink? if yes, tell me how often?
Yes I smoke, so do you! One packet a day, 20 cigs a day. Yes I love a drink, socially, abottle of wine over dinner, I never go to bars, I like to have a couple of short drinks before I go to bed. I don’t drink beer at all. I have never been drunk so I don’t know what that’s like. I have seen others drunk and think it’s disgusting.

Are you Independence in your decision about your relationship or do you seek advice from people around you?
No, I keep things to myself, I don’t think I could share problems with others, I don’t know if that’s right or wrong Grace.

How long have you been on a dating site?
About six months I suppose, can’t wait to get off, I don’t like it at all.

What's your bad or good experience in meeting a lady on the Internet ?
I think that some of the people on the net, men and women, are trying to take advantage of others, this worries me a lot, not just for myself but for other innocents being taken on. When I find the right person I will give my everything and go to the end of the world for that person but not before. I have had older women contact me but I am not looking for an old lady, I still feel young and the last thing I want is to watch someone knitting or sit playing cards.

Do you like sharing your feelings?
Depends who I am sharing with, at the moment I have no-one to share my feelings with, I think I would only share with someone that I love and trust.

Do you have kids? How Many and if you do, do they live with you?
I have no kids, I think I am sterile but I’m not sure.

Do you want kids someday may be in the future?
If I was with a partner who wanted children I would accept that no problem, I have been selfish in the past because there was so much I wanted to do, and kids would have prevented me doing those things Grace

Where are you really born and raised?
Born at the end of the last war in Witney, Oxford, England. My mum was sent from London to have me there because of the German bombing of London. Then raised in London

What is your real name and Age?
C’mon, I was born on the 21st of July 1945 I am 71 years old, My real name is as you already know, John Philip Bell. SEND YOU A COPY OF MY BIRTH CERTIFICATE IF YOU WANT.

Are you living alone at the moment and do you live in a shared or rented apartment or a home of yourself?
Alone in my own farmhouse which is bought and paid for

These questions are thought-provoking and may spread some light on viewpoints we didn't know about us. Take some time and answer this questions, so i can fully understand your views on relationship . As i will do the same in my reply.

So i am kind of lonely for now but i am doing all in my power to keep myself busy, but reading mails from you make me happy ,I hope you are the man i am looking for , I want to be sure because i don't want to get hurt again.
Grace

Letter 6

John,

I really love the way you answered the questions about relationship, It really touch my heart and i thank God that i met you , You really made my day with the way you answer those questions accordingly, I think the way you sound seems like you want us to develop a relationship together and also you sound like the kind of man who know what he want in life. I just want us to be honest with each other together please because like I said I have been hurt before and I do not want such thing to happen to me anymore I am sorry if I am being this way but I just think the only way for me to know more about you is by answering questions from each other and being open minded and God fearing so please take your time to ask me anything.
I think since you took your time to answer the question, then I also have to answer the same questions so that you can also know my view about it.

Tell me the roles of woman in a relationship?

In my opinion the role of woman in a relationship is to be a provider of support, She should guide his husband to feel secure with their relationship and encourage him to seek out what his heart desires regards to life choices.

What are the things that matters in a relationship and what do they mean to you?

The most important things to me in a relationship are love, trust, and communication. I want to feel as if I am more in love with a man everyday that we spend together. In order to attain this a couple must develop a supreme sense of trust where absolutely nothing is held back. Part of trust is to have good communication. Whenever a problem arises it should be talked out without anger or resentment.

What are the roles i want my man to play in the relationship?

In a relationship I would like a man to play the role of an equal partner. When I am not strong I want to be able to turn to my man to confide into and look to for help overcoming any problem that I face. I want him to be the person I love the most, respect the most, and consider my best friend.

What are the things i want my man to do to me always?

I would hope that my man will be there when I need him most and always be able to speak to me with both frankness and sincerity.I like it when men can openly show his affection. or a smile that shows me that he really loves me.

Tell me your likes and dislikes? ,Do's and Don't

I really enjoy when I can bring my man into all aspects of my life. I want him to like being around myfamily and friends or at least make the honest effort to. I like a man who can keep a positive attitude during difficult times,who is open to trying new things,and shares my passion for life and for helping our fellow human.

The things that I don't like in relationships are when we loose the ability to be able to talk openly. Also, I do not do well with people who think they are better than others and are always thinking about themselves.

What are your do's and don't do?

My do's: I am romantic, great at surprises, very funny and can usually turn a frown into a smile, very giving, full of patients, full of life and try to get the most out of everyday. I am good at inspiring others as well.

My don't: materialistic people, smoking, drugs, money-hungry motives, boastfulness, and people who love to fight.

I think with the way you answered my question ,It clearly shows you are ready for a lifelongrelationship ,It is not as if i am in a rush to get married but i know what i want ,and with your answers to my question i think you are best for me. I know what you want from me and i will also be happy to show you my love and happiness throughout our life time together.

Where exactly do you think this communication between us could lead to? Have you even experience anything like this before? With all i have told you about me, do you think we might have a chance together as we continue our communication?

I will be expecting your response to this mail as soon as possible and also let me know you daily schedule so that i might be sure of the exact time i can meet you at the computer so that we can exchange mails.

If things work out between us. How do you think we will meet ? You are really finding your way intomy heart and i hope this will be the beginning of something good between us,you sound like my kind of man
Hope to read from you soonest
Grace