Letter(s) from Christabel Dobson to Gerhard (Germany)

Letter 1

Hello thanks for the message your profile is one that I enjoyed reading. I would say that you're every woman's dream. Independent, responsible, goal oriented and very attractive. i will be glad if you can share some of your past with me. I'm presently working on my goal that's why am here searching for a soul mate but my true passion is somewhere else. I still don't know where my path is taking me, I'm open to all possibilities, knowing beforehand that nothing is by chance gives me incredible willingness to accept whatever comes my way. In my profile I mention future as being important for me, actually my lifestyle is in everything connected to it, starting from my meditation and other practice up to the outlook in life. This means that I'm not driven by material things, status or power. I would like to take a shot and try to keep up with you. If you have the time maybe we could just get to know each other better, I'm up for that. I'm seeking longterm serious relationship that will turn marriage. I'm driven by simplicity, integrity, honesty, love, compassion and nature. This is all about me but there's a facet of my character which is adventurous and risky, which contrasts with what I previously mentioned. All this to say that I'm simply me, controversial, polemic, but loving and totally passionate and helplessly romantic. In a relationship age is not important but balance, honesty, communication and trust is. I'll like to know more about you, your past experiences. I mean your future,biography. You can write me on christabelldobson@hotmail.com It would be nice to receive your reply , until then I wish you have a most wonderful day ahead.

Letter 2

Hi Gerhard

Thank you so much for getting back with me. It would be a pleasure to get to know you. many thanks for your e-mail. It is sometimes dangerous to hope and wish for something, because it might just actually happen and then again its always dangerous asking me questions because you will get a thorough and open response that sometimes might out a smile on your face and other times would not. If truth and uninhibited openness is something that scares you, I am not the right person for you. I was so very impressed with the letter you wrote to me. I will surely try to tell you what I am all about before this letter is through.

I have a very open and frank policy. Unless I am contractually bound or have given my word to someone to keep something secret/confidential, I do not otherwise hold any secrets that can't be obtained merely by asking me. Specifically I want to know about you, your present, past, biography, work, kids, future, your hopes, your desires, what makes you happy and what makes you the person that you are today. I would like to know about your childhood and your life and I would like to know about where you would like to be now, a few months down the track, a few years down the track and ultimately your life-time goals. I'd like to know you as a person first but I also want to know your sexual side and what your tastes and limits are because ultimately no-one can make anyone happy unless they are given the information that helps them know the person inside and out so that afterwards things happen without much fuss and with expectations known and met rather then guessed at and with limits inadvertently crossed thereby causing upset. It is my intention to get to know you and to know what makes you smile and what upsets you as to know what to increase and what to leave out both now and in the longer run should it work out that way. How open and frank you are with me is a choice I leave entirely up to you. If its G-rated or XX-rated its up to you and what you feel like and whilst it is up to me to keep to my part, it is up to you not to do things just for the sake that someone asks you but because you want to and are inclined to and are excited and enjoy doing what you do.

I'm a curious combination of very cautious mixed in with enthusiasm that borders on recklessness. On the one hand I can be exceedingly patient and take things slow as I learn more and more, but once a decision has been made and I'm ready to act, I move so fast that it often surprises people at the speed and accuracy of my actions. My ultimate aim though is to take it all the way but I do not blindly push any agenda or place conditions. I just go with the flow with good thoughts and intentions and with open eyes and an open heart and am easy going. I don't look for blame and I'm a very hard person to get angry - you would really have to try hard to achieve that. Have been through a time in my life where I felt worthless unloved, continuously searching for happiness. I wasn't getting along with my family, and my friends were all hating each other, leaving me stuck in the middle, stressfully trying to pull things together but meeting my ex i thought i have found Happiness but it was all the same, so tell me what do i do if i don't have to continue searching for the future. I do really appreciate it and you sounds so nice to me. Well.... let me start telling you about my self and what i have passed through in trusting a man. I was born In Las Vegas by my dad who died in an auto accident on his way to the hospital to see mum. Am presently living with my sister in western Nigeria just after the death of my parent. my sister has been here for years now because she got married to a Nigerian but they both met years back in the state but she got relocated with him since Nigerian is his home land. Just after the death of my parent, i was left alone in the state with nobody cares and i was about dropping out of school when she called if i will be happy living with her right here in Nigeria but since i got no options so i moved and that's was how i got stocked here till date. She has been everything i wanted and she has been there for me. I love her so much

I used to have a boyfriend when i was still in college in Iowa Ames. He was everything i wanted a guy to be. We had been friends for a couple of months and he finally asked me out. I was happy yet sad because i knew that if we dated our relationship will never be the same. During our first weeks of dating he was so sweet and nice and i started to get more and more attracted to him. Few months passed and we were still together i thought i was the happiest girl in the world. He treated me like a princess and that made me feel special and he promised to marry me so i allowed him to dis-virgin me not knowing he just wanted to have sex and leave me because he has found another girl who's parents are rich so he taught he could make his own wealth through them by marrying their daughter, I was so down that i thought i would kill myself but somehow i had the courage to live on. My dad owned a auto company in Florida in Lake land where he sells motor parts and after his death, My uncle acted as he commanded before he died he said he should sell off the Auto company and use the money to invest on behalf of him and his younger and elder sister which is me and my sister named Tina Some month's past, My uncle died and we cant spend the money. So me and my own sister now decided to used the money in buying Sheers in the bank and my sister also used the money to invests. I studied Banking and finance in the University of Lagos. and i just finish my 2 year masters . I use to work as a sales rep. in a grocery store but i quite because i was sexually harassed by my boss but i hope to secure a better one soon.

I don't like being doubted, without having an emotional bond, to me it leaves everything else pointless. I do have to say you are a very big person for sharing your feelings the way you have. I do frequent church but i serve a living God am sure you understand why, and I have a temper comparable to a five year old. I get mad, but in five minutes I am over it but am getting over that.I share your same convictions. I want to marry once in my life but thought that's the way its going to be, I don't believe in divorce, single, separating and stuffs like that. Although it happens, I do not want that for me. I am holding out for a man that can respect my dreams and help me with them as I help him with his. I want someone that can appreciate solitude when his wife is at work, or want to go to work with his wife. I love life, and appreciate everything that I am dealt everyday. I still want to want the something for my future - wherever and however that comes about doesn't really matter. The kind of man I'm looking for has to be honest and trustworthy - beyond that other things are less important, but obviously there has to be some attraction both physically and mentally, the important thing is that an equal partner in life with both of us having equal say in every decision in life. I hope that you will not break my heart if i give it to you. I look forward in meeting you one day, I wont like to go through what i went through again so please let me know if u re not ready for a long term serious relationship {marriage} after knowing each other well... and you know trust is the foundation of a good relationship. A journey of a thousand miles start from the first step taken maybe this is ours we don't know yet. Ultimately I would love to bask in the warmth of your smile and that can only happen if you're happy and content with life and honesty is the key I think to starting along the correct path to achieve that. If we get there or not I can make no guarantees, life always has a way of throwing spanners into the works but at the very least I have warned you off in case there are aspects of me that you find loathsome or creepy or just a case of I am not the right person for you. In any case, I do wish you happiness and love no matter where and with whom you find it. I am not perfect, but can see that, and want to better myself. I have had spoiled relationships where I was hurt, you can never forget those times, just learn from them. I was ready to marry once, but thinking I was too young, I backed out, although I regret loosing a great love of my life, I have grown to be more mature for a more serious relationship. I have a lot of love to give, but I am far from being the person you describe in some ways, but in other ways I fit the picture. I hope I haven't totally confused you in who I am and what I want. You are a very great person, but I am who I am, I hope that can be good enough for you xxxx

With tenderness,