Letter(s) from Christabel Dobson Howell to Don (USA)

Letter 1

Hi Woody

Thank you so much for getting back with me. It would be a pleasure to get to know you. many thanks for your e-mail. It is sometimes dangerous to hope and wish for something, because it might just actually happen and then again its always dangerous asking me questions because you will get a thorough and open response that sometimes might out a smile on your face and other times would not. If truth and uninhibited openness is something that scares you, I am not the right person for you. I was so very impressed with the letter you wrote to me. I will surely try to tell you what I am all about before this letter is through.

I have a very open and frank policy. Unless I am contractually bound or have given my word to someone to keep something secret/confidential, I do not otherwise hold any secrets that can't be obtained merely by asking me. Specifically I want to know about you, your present, past, biography, work, kids, future, your hopes, your desires, what makes you happy and what makes you the person that you are today. I would like to know about your childhood and your life and I would like to know about where you would like to be now, a few months down the track, a few years down the track and ultimately your life-time goals. I'd like to know you as a person first but I also want to know your sexual side and what your tastes and limits are because ultimately no-one can make anyone happy unless they are given the information that helps them know the person inside and out so that afterwards things happen without much fuss and with expectations known and met rather then guessed at and with limits inadvertently crossed thereby causing upset. It is my intention to get to know you and to know what makes you smile and what upsets you as to know what to increase and what to leave out both now and in the longer run should it work out that way. How open and frank you are with me is a choice I leave entirely up to you. If its G-rated or XX-rated its up to you and what you feel like and whilst it is up to me to keep to my part, it is up to you not to do things just for the sake that someone asks you but because you want to and are inclined to and are excited and enjoy doing what you do.

I'm a curious combination of very cautious mixed in with enthusiasm that borders on recklessness. On the one hand I can be exceedingly patient and take things slow as I learn more and more, but once a decision has been made and I'm ready to act, I move so fast that it often surprises people at the speed and accuracy of my actions. My ultimate aim though is to take it all the way but I do not blindly push any agenda or place conditions. I just go with the flow with good thoughts and intentions and with open eyes and an open heart and am easy going. I don't look for blame and I'm a very hard person to get angry - you would really have to try hard to achieve that. Have been through a time in my life where I felt worthless unloved, continuously searching for happiness. I wasn't getting along with my family, and my friends were all hating each other, leaving me stuck in the middle, stressfully trying to pull things together but meeting my ex i thought i have found Happiness but it was all the same, so tell me what do i do if i don't have to continue searching for the future. I do really appreciate it and you sounds so nice to me. Well.... let me start telling you about my self and what i have passed through in trusting a man. I was born In FL by my dad who died in an auto accident on his way to the hospital to see mum. Am presently living with my sister in western Nigeria just after the death of my parent. my sister has been here for years now because she got married to a Nigerian but they both met years back in the state but she got relocated with him since Nigerian is his home land. Just after the death of my parent, i was left alone in the state with nobody cares and i was about dropping out of school when she called if i will be happy living with her right here in Nigeria but since i got no options so i moved and that's was how i got stocked here till date. She has been everything i wanted and she has been there for me. I love her so much

I used to have a boyfriend when i was still in college in Iowa Ames. He was everything i wanted a guy to be. We had been friends for a couple of months and he finally asked me out. I was happy yet sad because i knew that if we dated our relationship will never be the same. During our first weeks of dating he was so sweet and nice and i started to get more and more attracted to him. Few months passed and we were still together i thought i was the happiest girl in the world. He treated me like a princess and that made me feel special and he promised to marry me so i allowed him to dis-virgin me not knowing he just wanted to have sex and leave me because he has found another girl who's parents are rich so he taught he could make his own wealth through them by marrying their daughter, I was so down that i thought i would kill myself but somehow i had the courage to live on. My dad owned a auto company in Florida in Lake land where he sells motor parts and after his death, My uncle acted as he commanded before he died he said he should sell off the Auto company and use the money to invest on behalf of him and his younger and elder sister which is me and my sister named Tina Some month's past, My uncle died and we cant spend the money. So me and my own sister now decided to used the money in buying Sheers in the bank and my sister also used the money to invests. I studied Banking and finance in the University of Lagos. and i just finish my 2 year masters . I use to work as a sales rep. in a grocery store but i quite because i was sexually harassed by my boss but i hope to secure a better one soon.

I don't like being doubted, without having an emotional bond, to me it leaves everything else pointless. I do have to say you are a very big person for sharing your feelings the way you have. I do frequent church but i serve a living God am sure you understand why, and I have a temper comparable to a five year old. I get mad, but in five minutes I am over it but am getting over that.I share your same convictions. I want to marry once in my life but thought that's the way its going to be, I don't believe in divorce, single, separating and stuffs like that. Although it happens, I do not want that for me. I am holding out for a man that can respect my dreams and help me with them as I help him with his. I want someone that can appreciate solitude when his wife is at work, or want to go to work with his wife. I love life, and appreciate everything that I am dealt everyday. I still want to want the something for my future - wherever and however that comes about doesn't really matter. The kind of man I'm looking for has to be honest and trustworthy - beyond that other things are less important, but obviously there has to be some attraction both physically and mentally, the important thing is that an equal partner in life with both of us having equal say in every decision in life. I hope that you will not break my heart if i give it to you. I look forward in meeting you one day, I wont like to go through what i went through again so please let me know if u re not ready for a long term serious relationship {marriage} after knowing each other well... and you know trust is the foundation of a good relationship. A journey of a thousand miles start from the first step taken maybe this is ours we don't know yet. Ultimately I would love to bask in the warmth of your smile and that can only happen if you're happy and content with life and honesty is the key I think to starting along the correct path to achieve that. If we get there or not I can make no guarantees, life always has a way of throwing spanners into the works but at the very least I have warned you off in case there are aspects of me that you find loathsome or creepy or just a case of I am not the right person for you. In any case, I do wish you happiness and love no matter where and with whom you find it. I am not perfect, but can see that, and want to better myself. I have had spoiled relationships where I was hurt, you can never forget those times, just learn from them. I was ready to marry once, but thinking I was too young, I backed out, although I regret loosing a great love of my life, I have grown to be more mature for a more serious relationship. I have a lot of love to give, but I am far from being the person you describe in some ways, but in other ways I fit the picture. I hope I haven't totally confused you in who I am and what I want. You are a very great person, but I am who I am, I hope that can be good enough for you xxxx

With tenderness,

Christabell

Letter 2

i heard that it's black friday today, can you get me a blackberry tourh

Letter 3

What a man you are, Woody

I guess you are doing well today and as beautiful as ever. Have gone through your message over and over again and let me confess that you really sound hot. Yes you turned me on instantly. But before I get into a relationship with you, I need to let you know few more things about me. you should also know that I dont sleep with a man just for sex, dont take cigarrette or smoke and also dont have kids. I like emotional connection between me and the person I sleep with. Sex without love is like a food without salt. It is tasteless. Well I have reached maturity and I know I have to take care of things. All I need now is a good husband. My next relationship will benefit me by giving me emotional stability so that I can continue to achieve more. Its like maslows hierachy of needs. I hope to get to self actualization at the top of the pyramind. I have learnt a lot from past relationships. Woody, valuing a relationship is not merely done by seeing each other everyday but what counts is how much in our busy lives we remember each other. One thing I learnt was that I should always give my man attention when I am at home. Just talking to him, asking how his day was and doing things together is very important. I have to let my man know that I am always thinking about him, I love and care for him by giving him surprise gifts, going out for dinner etc. I have also learnt the importance of honesty, faithfulness, trust and kindness. I hate short tempers, outbusts, cursing and vulgular language. Woody, respecting each other and communication are equally important. Being a good listener and letting the other person let out his or her feelings without the fear of being misunderstood or arguing are important aspects of any relationship. I narrowed specific desires that I want in my man. This include honesty, faithfulness, understanding, kind, reliable, responsible, affectionate, educated, hardworking and so on. These I cant compromise or revise. However I have a list of those characteristics that I can compromise. I like a man with future, hope and a serious one, but I can compromise height and external beauty for internal beauty. Traits like being sexy are appealing but I cant marry a man on basis of his looks or the size of her wallet. Money and Look come last. Beauty fades away as we age and money can be lost in a flash. But true love endures for ever

Woody, maybe i can come up with a little point of advice as we getting into this more and more because i believe in marriage we marry a mystery, an other, a counterpart. In a sense the person we marry is a stranger about whom we have a magnificent hunch. The person we choose to marry is someone we love, but his depths, her intimate intricacies.Swept up by attraction, attention, fantasy, hope, and a certain happy measure of recognition, we agree to come together for the mysterious future, to see where the journey will take us. This companionship on life’s journey is the hallmark of marriage, its natural province, its sweetest and most primal gift.

Woody, i want you to believe a man can inherit a house and money from his parents, but only the Lord can give him a sensible wife, when one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls. Her husband entrusting his heart to her, has an unfailing prize. I know that you are not perfect and nor can I claim to be either, but please believe me, when I say that I want to be by a man side, to hold him hand, to treasure him in the morning and in the noon-tide, to be next to him, to be held close to his heart now and for the rest of my living years, to comfort him, dry his tears and calm his most frightening fears, to fight his battles and show no shame to scream my interest/love for him out loud all over the land. Woody, I'll need more of a man to stay close as we step forward into the future. We can't change the past, only remember the good times, but we can make the past our good times. Woody, I am already over my past. I am ready to meet a new man, new life and new love. I detached myself emotionally with my previous relationship before I called it off that falling in love is easy, staying in love requires work. I am finding ways of trying to make my life complete. One is to get myself a serious loving man, fiancee and husband. The past is history. I am ready to move on. I'll patiently wait your response Xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

With Love and Tenderness
Christabell

Letter 4

Name.. Christabell Howell
State..Lagos
Country..Nigeria
23401

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