Letter(s) to Steve (Australia)

Letter 1

This is my first time to write considering internet dating. I had your email address from the Ghana Police Service that you are interesting in a woman. What really pulled me to write you this message is very simple that is the word SOUL MATE (in short sentence - Someone for whom you have a deep affinity)

I also register to search for a soul mate and I think I have to start by telling you who I am. I am Kana, born on 20th March, 1974, a Ghanaian. I would instigate by telling you what I want in man or what I am looking for in a man and I hope you would posses some which would let you know whether we can continue or not.

I am looking for a special, loving relationship with a unique man who is affectionate, sincere, easygoing, a great sense of humor, hardworking and big heart, is curious about new things that would like to share new experiences or old habits, someone true intimate partner looks out for the other and vice versa, with interests and characteristics similar to mine. Someone who wants a meaningful, serious, long-term relationship not just a few dates. While navigating life together, we are caring and concerned for each other's well-being because we make each other so happy and we love each other very much. But I wouldn’t wish all that on one person ever ,I know what it is to do all those things it’s a lot to do and would drive any one person to either loose their mind or run away but should exhibit some of the features, am the kind of person that is affectionate! Love to cuddle, and get lost in kiss! Intimacy and foreplay is important along with romance!

With all due respect as well, I hope that you are upfront and will be honest with me, as well. I hope that this lets you know a little about me, and I hope I don't come across as being too cynical, harsh, or mean sounding. I will give anybody the benefit of the doubt (we're all human, we all make mistakes), but I also don't like being taken advantage of. I'm just asking you to keep it real and be honest; that way, nobody is wasting their time or getting their feelings hurt.

I will right about me again in another mail so you would know me more and then decide whether we should continue or not and want you also to do same. I would be Looking forward to that.
Kana.

Letter 2

Hello to you once again, I think you would be having the problem with the distance but for me I do not have problem with it because distance does not come across true love at all and that of soul mate too. I want to actualize my dream of been with my soul mate and not to just be with ANY MAN and not to waste my time that is why I saw many email addresses but it was yours that I chose.
Continue from what I have email you about myself and what I am looking for in a man I want to be with I would say again that I am a simple woman, and comfortable with what I am doing that is working on my inheritance which is pineapple farm of 40 acres. Both parents are dead and I am alone now. Married once and divorced without any child.
I like getting out and checking out local talent and live concerts, here in Accra or anywhere. I enjoy movies and music for relaxation those are what keeps me a lonely woman company till now. A quiet night at home is also enjoyed and welcomed. I am open to try different activities and up for the challenge.
I love spontaneity and being a bit impulsive. I am continually attempting to function from the inside out and to go with my intuitive impulses, because sometimes the spontaneous actions are the most fun, not expected and purely delightful but with my bad experience with this internet dating a would really ask you more questions and hope you would bare with me.
I generally try to live a somewhat healthy lifestyle, exercising and some sort of jogging, 3-4 days a week and eating healthy, (I love sweets and pastries, but try not to over do it).
I would also like to find a like-minded male where we can participate in activities together and encourage each other to pursue their interests as well.
I have several hobbies (and wish I could find more time to pursue those) such as swimming, reading, and more, and would like someone to share that with, as well as their sharing their interests with me.
I do not expect a man to be a servant to me, spending all his time working and cleaning; I believe there is give and take in a relationship, and I realize that at times it's more convenient for me to do laundry, cook, clean, and I have no problem doing that because that is what I have been taught by my parents and even on top of that what African woman is capable of! Well cultured and hard working.
I consider myself to be a fairly honest and truthful person and expect the same in return; I'm not wealthy and don't expect someone to attempt to deceive me or "play" me.
I believe that time spent apart helps keep things fresh in a relationship and makes the time we DO spend together even better but for now we should spend a lot of time together just to know each other very well. I'm not one who cheats in a relationship; one man is enough trouble; I don't have the time or energy to juggle 2, 3, or 4 at the same time - ha-ha.

I am generally an optimistic person with a sense of humor, fairly easy-going, and I don't think that I'm too critical about things, but I also believe that it takes two people contributing to a relationship to make it work.
As I mentioned earlier, I like to do things with the other significant person in my life, but I also encourage him to go out and spend time with friends and pursue his own interests and hobbies as well.
As you can tell, I am not a bias and believe in total communication.... Not that we can do that all the time, but ultimately we can get the feelings out without too much delay, I hope. I believe in getting to know my partner and communication seems to be the best way to do this. I am adventurous. Love to see new places and experience new things.
I will always have the little kid in me, even though I am very responsible!! It is such a positive way of having fun and expressing yourself, and you get to show your man to the world on the dance floor like a beautiful flower equal partnership takes to tango, compromise, and communication is so important!!!!
I hope this is the little again I can say about my self and if you have something else to ask me the door is open and I have attach a picture of myself and I would be pleased to see yours too.
I am tired and I thing I have done pretty well and would end here. Take care and looking forward to hear from you as soon as possible.
Kana

Letter 3

I think I have to write you again since I am close to my laptop and just think about you, I hope the sleeping is going on well. As a matter of fact I am awaiting your number also so I can call you and to check on how you are doing and even schedule a time to meet online.
I would start by telling you what I was wishing for before I had your contact and know for sure that you were wishing to have the same thing but turned out negative (sorry for that). My desire is to meet a sensitive, sensuous, possesses strong character, warm, goal-oriented, assertive single man who wants a serious long term relationship. He should also enjoy good humor, love to laugh, and be a hopeless romantic. My ideal partner must love to take long walks...holding hands. His yes must be yes, and his no, no. This was what I am looking for in a resume and I know you possess those?
Been a Spinster is not an easy task Roby! I like getting out (going for a hike) and checking out local talent and live concerts, here or anywhere. I enjoy movies (romantic, adventure and comic films), reading (journals that I learnt because of my job and any other books that I lay my hands on) and music (Gospel, jazz, cools and country music but I don’t like rap music) for relaxation. A quiet night at home is also enjoyed and welcomed. I am open to try different activities and up for the challenge.
I love spontaneity and being a bit impulsive. I am continually attempting to function from the inside out and to go with my intuitive impulses, because sometimes the spontaneous actions are the most fun, not expected and purely delightful. I generally try to live a somewhat healthy lifestyle, exercising: jogging, 3-4 days a week and eating healthy, to live long my dear (trust me, I love sweets and pastries, but try not to over do it, am sorry if it sounds odd am use to it from infancy). I have several hobbies (and wish I could find more time to pursue those) such as swimming, dancing, and reading, and more (Ghanaian types will teach you if God willing we meet), I am adventurous. Love to see new places and experience new things, and would like someone to share that with, as well as sharing his interests with me.
I do not expect a man to be a servant to me, spending all his time working and cleaning; I believe there is give and take in a relationship (helping my man in the household chores), and I realize that at times it's more convenient for me to do laundry, cook, clean, and I have no problem doing that-am use to that. I believe that time spent apart helps keep things fresh in a relationship and makes the time we DO spend together even better. I'm not one who cheats in a relationship; one man is enough; I don't have the time or energy to juggle 2, 3, or 4 at the same time and that even violates the principles of the Holy Bible which I believe in.
I am generally an optimistic person with a sense of humor, fairly easy-going, and down to earth. I do believe that it takes two people contributing to a relationship to make it work. As I mentioned earlier, I like to do things with the other significant person in my life, but I also encourage him to go out and spend time with friends and pursue his own interests and hobbies as well. As you can tell, I am not a bias and believe in total communication.... Not that we can do that all the time, but ultimately we can get the feelings out without too much delay, I hope. I believe in getting to know my partner very well, communication seems to be the best way to do this. I will always have the little kid in me, even though I am very responsible!! Love to play;
I consider myself to be a fairly honest and truthful person and expect the same in return; I'm not ALL that wealthy and don't expect someone to attempt to deceive me or "play" me. I will always be who I am at the core, my soul, my being, who I am, and what makes me. But!!! I am chuck full of potential I actually can be taught!!!!! LOL!!! man need to be like a guiding light for women we sometimes have a tendency to miss the little things, not on purpose. Man and a woman should work as a team together, I cook, clean, dust, and do laundry as I have told you earlier on. Please I have some few questions for you?
How many brothers and sisters etc. you have? How big is your family?
What did you always want to be when you "grew up"?
Is it what you are doing now? What changed?
What's the funniest thing that has ever happened to you?
What was your most embarrassing moment?

Kana.