Letter(s) from Hawa Ibrahim to Daniel (USA)

Letter 1

Hi, My name is Hawa and am pretty new to these online stuffs. I am single, never been married and with no kids. I am here surfing to see if i could find the other half of me. I got your email on inter-chat and wanted to drop you a short message with some pictures of me so you could see who you talking too. Attached are some photos of me and hope it doesn't scare you away. Hope to hear from you.

Letter 2

I am jeniffa by name i am 31 female with no kids ...never been married...5'7 feet tall and athletic and I was born in colorado and raised in Ghana and my race is colorado My heritage is English,may be u may ask what i mean by my heritage is English is all cuss our Colonial masters was the British and my dad is a British man, my religion is a Christian,never mind about me been a Christian so let us see what the future would hold for me and u. Am student i study accounting and i just completed my education and had master degree in accounting. Talking about who i am;am that easy going type, adventurous, romantic, ambitious and have a very good sense of humor.. My hobbies are too many but to mentioned a few; sports,watching movies, going for walks, listening to music (almost all types of music), love on the beach, dancing in the dark etc.
My favorite movies are romantic movies, eating habits: just about anything. I don¦t have any kids, I don¦t smoke or drink alcohol. am always smiling and don’t easily get irritated, I don't even remember the last time I frowned.
am that type of person who always try to make people laugh. I always make sure to share the little that I have with someone and also satisfied with whatever I have. am an all rounded person to cut it this is all i can say about me but if you feels there's more you want to know about me please you're more than welcome to ask any question u wished to know about me and am also alone and looking for someone to share my whole life with,not just someone but one who have all the good characters in life. am of that type and want someone with the same to spend with. II can see you are of that type because you stated it in your advert the type of person of you want.i really know what love is and also the type who give his whole heart in a relationship. Relationships are built one day at a time; they take time, patience, honesty, passion and ability to compromise and grow! So with true love, is by sharing bad and good times together. True love is a covenant that we build on a strong foundation and that’s why we don’t develop it witching a day. It takes sometime to mature and that’s when both sees that they are having the same strong feeling for each other. It is
with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it. I promise to make my one and only the most happiest man on earth if only he’s willing to accept me as part of him. I’ll be there whenever he needs me and promise never to do anything to hurt his feeling. I’ll love him just the way he is, being blind, disable, deaf or dumb or whatever category that he falls in. I really mean my words and I’m serious too.I’m ever ready to sail to the end of the sea with him and ever prepared to do anything to have him forever. I promised to be the woman of his dreams cuss I’m not going,to let him down, since the adage goes ;A woman without a man is like a river or a stream without a source and as relationship are build on trust and with mutual respect I assure him my whole heart. I don¦t know and can¦t tell if that special person is you but I believe it’s you Bcus your advert alone speaks of it all so why don’t we give ourselves a chance and find out what happens. I know at this point, we have something in common so let us be serious to each other and see what the future will be for us and pls write back and stay blessed.
How many Girlfriends you had before?
2. Do you know what went wrong in your past relationship(s)?
3. Do you know what you want in a new partner?
4.Do you smoke cigarettes or drink alcohol or do drugs?
5.How many brothers and sisters etc. you have?( How big is your family?)
6. What's the year you were born and how old you are?
7. What types of music or movies or TV Shows you like?
8. What is your goals or dreams in life?
9. What do you dream about at night?
10. What's your favorite foods & drinks?
11. Can you drive a vehicle?
12. What's your religion?
13. What languages you speak?
14. Are You left or right handed?
15.Are you financially stable?
16. Are you intelligent and smart and educated with common sense?
17. What's your turn on's and turn off's?
18. Do have any sexual transmiitted diseases?
19. Do you any tattoos and body piercings?
20. What is your favorite Positiong in Sex?
21. What's your interest and dislikes?
22. Have you learned something about yourself from every past relationship?
23.Have you narrowed down your specific desires as to what type of person you want to meet?
24.Have you talked about your feelings with someone else?
25.What did you do this weekend (week)?
26.What sports do you play or like?
27.Where did you go to school/college?
28.Do you like (an interest of yours)?
29.What's Your Favorite Sexual Fantasy?
30.What's Your Favorite Way To Be Touched?
What are your religious views?
Do you believe in a God?
What are your views about an afterlife?
How should we agree to handle arguments?
If you're mad about something how will you let me know?
If you're having problems would you talk it out or keep it inside?
Do you like sharing your feelings?
What are your views about same sex friends?
How do you feel about ex-lovers being friends?
How important is a girl's or guy's night out?
Who should hold the main financial responsibility in a marriage?
Should a wife stay home with kids?
What are your views about stay-at-home dads?
How would you feel about women who make more money than men?
What are your views towards handling money?
Do you feel you should save everything?
Do you feel you should splurge a little?
How would you rate your ability to handle money?
How would you handle a debt problem?
What would you do if your partner became disabled and couldn't work?
What would you do if your partner face long-term unemployment?
What would you expect from that partner?
Would you have an abortion?
What are your views on abortion?
Do you want children?
How many children do you think a couple should have?
How would you discipline your children?
Do you think couples should argue in front of their kids?
Do you feel couples should have displays of affection in front of their kids?
What are your views on the educational system?
How would you want your kids taught?
Public school, private school, home schooling, or other?
Who do you expect would be the primary care giver for your children?
What do you feel about interracial couples?
How do you feel about same sex marriages?
What are your views on age gap relationships (more than 10 years apart)?
How would you handle your children if they were involved in one of these types of relationships?
How would you handle your partner if they developed a problem such as gambling or alcohol?
What would you do if your partner cheated on you?
At what point would you consider divorcing a life mate?
Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
What are your life goals?
What are your passions?
If you had a million dollars how would you spend it?
Do you believe in marriage?
Do you believe you should only marry once?
What do you hope to gain from a marriage?
What do you expect from a marriage partner?
What do you feel is the purpose of a couple getting married?

All relationships have some adjustment periods, but being hurt shouldn’t be part of being in love. Loving relationships have good qualities, such as support from your partner, a willingness to communicate, a desire to compromise, and open an honest communication. When you do not have these fundamental qualities in a relationship, that relationship isn’t likely to grow, and become something that you desire.
We all turn to our loved ones for support from time to time. When your loved one does not offer you their support it may be time to look at your relationship. As we all want to nurture those that we love. We want the best in life for those that we care about. If your partner is unwilling to listen to you, and to your problems, they are not meeting your needs when you need support. Support can come in many forms, someone lending an ear, someone going out of their way to help you, or something as simple as a phone call to cheer you up. Make sure your partner gives you support when you need it.
When engaging in a relationship with another person there is always going to be things that you do not agree upon. You want to have the ability to compromise so both partners are getting their wishes met. This may mean one night you watch football, and one night your partner watches a movie you enjoy. It might mean that your partner can agree to try a dish that you enjoy cooking............... In any organization with more than one person in it, there will be more than one opinion, work with your partner to see that both of you can compromise on different subjects. If someone isn’t willing to compromise, they are not willing to acknowledge your wants and desires. If they can not acknowledge your wants they are likely not emotionally developed enough for you to have your needs met.
Open and honest communication is one of the more desirable qualities you want to have in a relationship. Watch to see that your partner is not secretive, nor are they willing to tell lies to avoid certain subjects. For example, if a partner is married, and fails to tell you that, you can rightfully assume if they can lie about big things, they can lie about small things. While you may not like everything your partner may say, freedom to be honest should be there in your relationship. Likewise, you need to be open and honest with your partner; a relationship based upon false truths is not likely to be successful, because both partners do not have the correct frame of reference in the relationship.
There are many qualities that make relationships good support, compromise, and open and honest communication is just a few of these qualities that you may desire in a relationship. Engage only in relationships where both partners can openly discuss their wants and needs, this can take practice. Remember loving relationships grow and only become better, eliminate those who do not meet your needs when they continually fail to support you, will not compromise, and will not be honest.

I am vulnerable about my exterior appearance, about my body. I do not like when you compliment me about my aspect with jokes. I like and sometimes even prefer a stranger's compliment when it is said appropriately. I like when you surprise me with your compliments. Being surprised is like feeling there is something new, novel. I appreciate constructive suggestions, for example about the way I dress, but I do not like when you joke about it. If there is something you do not like, for example my new lipstick, tell it with courtesy, and buy me another one without letting me know.

I want to laugh, laugh, laugh with you. I want to dance with you, listen to music with you, and laugh with you. Let's laugh, let's free up, laughing together!
I like biking, I like going to the ocean and walking on the beach. You know it and I love when you propose doing something that maybe you do not specifically like doing, but you do because you know I like it.
I love surprise gifts — a haircut, or a day at a spa, or an hour of massage. It is a real gift when I come back home and find tasks I was supposed to do during that time already taken care of!
A dinner invitation is nice too, but it has to be a surprise. I love when you anticipate my desires; it means you know me very well, all the little things I care about, and my habits

Sex is important. Love is outside and inside the bedroom. New things in bed help strengthen and renew the relationship. You make me feel your sexual desire with your eyes, and it usually takes only a few seconds. I love when you look at me in the right way, when you gently put your hand in my hair. I like those kisses with closed mouth, like in the movies. They are like a preliminary, and make me thirsty for what is going to follow.

To love me is to accept me as I am. I do not want to be judged for the things I do. I want you to trust me and let me do what I feel is right. We women are always "right" — it is a matter of love. When I feel alone, empty, a stranger, I want your eyes to tell me I am the person you love and you want me for what I am. Do not do or say things because you think you are "honest", do them because of your love for me, and trust me even though you think I am wrong. Just as we do not judge our children because they are our children and we love them.

Be happy because I am happy. I like you when you say hi in the morning. I like when you call in the evening and tell me where you are and when you'll be at home. I feel nervous if I do not know where you are and I am here waiting for you. I like when there is complicity between us. I do not necessarily like when you do things I am jealous about, such as preparing the table or cooking dinner. But if you do it, take care of everything, to make me feel completely relaxed about it.

I like men's faces, their butts, the way they walk. A calm, warm, masculine voice can be very intriguing. I like when you talk to me with a calm tone of voice. I care for your compliments and your caresses. I like you when you are romantic, when you dream with me, when you are close to me while I fantasize. Even a stranger I meet on the bus can make me feel like a woman if he knows how to listen to me.

You need trust to love, but first you need to love in order to trust.To love someone is to understand each other, to laugh together, to smile with your heart and to trust one another. One important thing is to let each other go if you can't do this...............Love is like a wonderful feeling of compassion and satisfaction. It should be given respect and trust; and it should receive that love back.Thebest proof of love is trust.True love is the greatest thing that you can experience; it can weather any storm. Loving, trusting and respecting each other totally can bring you to true love and happiness.It's hard to love and hard to trust; but finding love and finding trust was a gift from you to me.Relationshipsshould never be taken for granted. The choice of being with another life is an amazing thing. Trust, loyalty and respect are a must for eternal happiness. No matter how much you love someone if you don’t have these ingredients you will never succeed.To be in love means being patient but to be patient you must trust him/her first.You can never find love through the eye or ear, so you must trust the only thing that will never fade until you die, your heart.Love is like trust, when you find your special someone it is as if you're trusting them with your heart.Trust is what you put in someone's hands. Faith is what you hold on to.Trust is what makes everyone realize that you are always there for them. Faith is what makes everyone realize that you are always there to help them in case they need some help. Love makes not everyone, but the only one in your life who is special, think that you are always there for her, to be with her, to cherish her, to fulfill her dreams, to share with her and most of all, to make her realize how much you really loveher.Distance doesn't matter if you really love the person, what matters most is your honesty and trust for that relationship to workout.Without romance, love gets dry. Without respect, love gets lost. Without caring, love gets boring. Without honesty, love gets unhappy, and without trust, love getsunstable.Love is a wonderful gift; trust in it, believe in it, give it, and it will be returned to you to give again and again.You can get advice from family, friends and strangers, but the best advice comes from your heart; it never lies - trust it.There may be many people that are trustworthy, but only a few are worth trusting with your heart; choose wisely.To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. For you can love many, but without trust you have nothing...............The heart already knows what the mind can only dream of. Trust your heart.Distance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love.Jealousy is not a sign of true love; it's insecurities that comes in the way, 'cause love has just one important ingredient:Trust.Do you trust me?Love means never doubting anything. It means trusting and being honest with each other someone can be as beautiful on the outside as they are on the inside, but when he or she betrays your trust, they become the ugliest person in theworld.Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrong doing. It does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes,perseveres.Love takes many things: trust, hope, wishes, dreams, and everything you've got, even when you know it's not going beenough.Love is not always fireworks and shooting stars; sometimes it's a simple understanding and trust between two people................

Happiness is the only thing on earth that cannot be paid by any diamonds, gold ormoney.Money and love aren't the same thing. The more you spend money, the less you have, the more you spend love, the more you get in return.Love doesn't cost money, but it does require the payment of your heart.A man can inherit a house and money from his parents, but only the Lord can give him a sensible wife.Love is when money and materialistic things no longer matter. It's when you're holding the hand of the woman you love and you feel like the richest man in the world - you have everything.With money, we can buy all things, but with love, we find everything that really matters.It isn't money, fame, or power, no, the greatest adventure in life is love.Power is one thing; money and power are two things, but love is everything....

I really been thinking right now that as we go on Chatting,I also i want to hear your voice as our next step from here..and i dont have a phone that u can call on ,So i would like you to help me to get the ghana phone calling card to call you ...............But i know that is not easy to get it to me here and it will not work here since we both have different telecommunication companies.,For you to try ur best and help me with money to get the calling card to call you is nothing for you to do it ,Is just between me and you ,just wanna hear each other voices and see how things will be taking us to ,becos i trust you and will always be trusting you forever and ever. ,So now the calling card cost $100us dollars for 500unit that i can call you for you to feel that i am near you.And then as soon as you send the money get back to me with the WesternUnion PickUp Information,So that as soon as i pickup the money am going directly to get the calling card and call you.I know how u will feel about this decission but if you are serious and interesting in me and do this for me and you only ,Trust me and belive in me ,I will never let you down,So take this risk with me and you will know that i am the right woman for you............... ....

Dear Love,
How are You doing....Hope That you are doing great and how is work going On..Hope That Everything is Moving On Very Well....Honey...I was In the House today when i had a call from the Ghana Telcom...Told me to come Over to the Office....So i went there and What They told me was all about My Internet Bill...But Very Curious....But what they told me was That i have a Payment for 3Months Internet Bill and My Bill come within Every 3Months..But what they told me was if am not able to Pay it with the next2 Business days...I will be Disconnected...Honey...Scared and i dont know what to do Now...and it will Pain and feel so bad and Terrible That I will be Disconnected...Honey...As at Now i dont work Now and Just schooling and i use the Internet too for school research...i will Lose you and Lose something Big..That is what i feel In you In you...Honey...so what do you Think about This,....Hope to hear from you soon.......
Ghana Telecommunications Ltd .

Date:6/01/2008 Batch # :E85471 Bill # :8524135536

Ghana Telecommunication is legitematly sending u this Bill of 3Months......We Kindly to let you know that the Bill of this the last tow month and this month has come up and Customers are supose to pay Early or else their Internet Line will be Disconnected today .Thank You .

Explorer Bill : 50 $

Power Bill :50 $

Power Tax :20 $
Usedup Bill: 30 $

Total Bill : 150 $
Thank You .

Traditional Marriage Ceremony is a 3 days traditional marriage held to signify that one is ready for commitment..It ensures that the community becomes aware of the woes and feelings that each other has for one another and therefore as custom requires or demands ..there must be a traditional marriage for any woman in the community before the wedding ceremony itself occurs..Even though we are in a community where superstition and beliefs are respected the Kingdom of the Almighty God is also respected.In order not to violate the Traditional norms and customs of a particular community the Chiefs and priests of the community where the woman is are allowed to go on a 2 days ceremony to perform their rites to ensure the woman into the correct mood of commitment.Anyway,the church is also honored and given the Sabbath day to use to ask for God's guidance and protection unto the woman as she is entering into a commitment.It occurs as a right to send a girl into Puberty and all those women who get the chance to pass through the traditional marriage are given due respect and can be invited into the seat of Elders of the community as It serves as purity to make the individual clean.Anyway as I am also a member of the Board of Elders of the community and wants the best for my Granddaughter I will want to advise to pass through the Traditional marriage.Also .there is an announcement to the whole community and make clear to the notice that the woman who is going through the traditional marriage can't be dated by anyone and must be respected in the society..To avoid bringing of Disgrace and Shame unto the community any woman who does not pass through that stage and gives birth is regardless in the society and sometimes banished from the society depending on how serious the offense on the Gods are..It also serves as the place where the Family members,loved ones and friends can go ahead and give their final verdict and give blessings to the one.Since I guess you too are planning to be together one day,I might not have the chance to witness your wedding ceremony as I am growing older day by day.I will want to have the opportunity to give her my last blessings and make known what her late parents had in store for her before they got killed in the accident.I am therefore asking you whether you want her to go through the process and I want you to know that is the norms and customs of the society so I dont have the power or mandate to go against it so all I can tell is that you join hands and go through the Traditional Marriage.Since you want to do it I will like to ask when do you want the traditional Marriage ceremony to take place as this month the Chiefs, and priests are kind of free and also the church has not announced any marriage yet so we could hurry up and fix a date for it..I am thinking if you can agree to let it start Next week Friday if we are still alive by the grace of the Almighty God.I give you both my blessings and wish you a very happy and prosperous marriage with lovely and wonderful kids..God be with you and guide you in anything that you wanna do.I will talk to the chief and let them know about the Marriage and also get all items that will be necessary for the wedding and then I will let Jeniffa or I myself will let them get known to you.Anyway let me get Jeniffa for you as I am feeling sleepy and wants to go to bed soon..Have a very nice time and God be with you too..

My Dear,
I went to the Chief's palace and I had the arrangements made.The priest and the church elders as well as members of the board of Elders and also the Pastor.The items needed for the community and there are as follows below.I will want to say them to you so you can see what you can do about that ..

Community Items
Local Drinks to sever the population has been estimated to about 5 Gallons and will cost $320.00
(Akpeteshie) Alcoholic Drinks to recall down the spirits of the ancestors and lost family members to share the ceremony will cost $310.00
Pito for the Elders and community board members I mean the elders as custom demands will cost $320.00
Local Kente cloth 9 yards for the ceremony and brisked African Mats will cost $540.00
Jewelery and Adult tree cloth and I will handle that.I can provide that
Vehicle to convey her and family members to ritual Points will cost $650...............00 for all the three days.

The Items for The church
Since it will be a communion service we will need to buy at least two cartoons of communion wine
Also Drinks tcongregationter Program might cost $1100.00
These are all the things and. registering fee will be $200.00 and be share among the elders who are going to helped for the success of the Ceremony It cost to a total of $3840.00.